Have you ever seen that meme of a woman standing in her kitchen with 20 arms trying to do everything? This is exactly how I feel at this very moment. Except for in reality I don’t have 20 arms, I only have two.
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How are you ladies doing it? I am a fairly new wife, mother to a 10-year-old daughter and a bonus mom to a 14-year-old son. I’m a teacher and entrepreneur as I run my own business and oh one last thing, I feel like I’m failing at all of it. I look on social media and see these women that are mother’s, wives and entrepreneurs. They are cooking dinner for their family every night and their house is spotless. I don’t know how in the world they make it look so good. I am barely keeping it all together. I can cook dinner every night but then I’m neglecting my business. I can take care of my children and then I’m neglecting my husband. If I put my time and energy into my job, then my business doesn’t get the attention it needs.
I feel like I have so many responsibilities and I don’t know how to divide up this one person into all of those responsibilities. So I ask again how do you do it? Obviously social media is a facade and everyone is posting themselves as if their lives are perfect. Perhaps they are also failing. I have no time or energy. I’m 39 going on 79. How do you do it? How in the world do I take care of my family, be the best mom, be the best wife, take care of my business, take care of myself and be the best employee? Can someone help? SOS.
Author Kia Renee & Family
This post is not meant to discourage anyone. In fact, as I type these words, I am hoping to encourage others as I encourage myself. A gentle reminder that no one is perfect, and there is no perfect scenario.The truth is we can’t do it all. A gentle reminder that many of us are pretending to be okay when deep down inside we just wanna scream.
I post this blog as an offering. It is okay to feel the way that you feel. You’re not a bad mom or a bad wife if you feel like running away some days. My encouragement as you read the end of this post is to recognize and acknowledge that one, we are all doing the best we can. Two, as long as our children are fed, have somewhere to sleep, have clean clothes and are loved, then sometimes that is all you have the capacity to give, and that is just fine. And finally, give yourself a break. You’re not alone.. You’re not the only one feeling this way. Find a support group of friends, family, other women in similar situations. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and their lives. Comment and share your story. You are allowed to say it out loud, that everything is not okay and that is okay with me.
Peace and be well.
Xoxo
The Diary of a Tired Mommy
